“It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness”1https://quoteinvestigator.com/2017/03/19/candle/ is a Chinese proverb meaning it is better to do something about a problem than complain about it.
Lighting a Candle in Darkness vs. Removing the Plank from Others’ Eyes
On the path of life, we sometimes face situations where we can choose to light a candle in darkness or attempt to remove the metaphorical sliver from someone else’s eye. These choices reflect our approach to empathy, self-improvement, and compassion.
Lighting a Candle in Darkness
Imagine encountering someone who is struggling, lost, or in pain. Lighting a candle in darkness represents an offering of support, understanding, and kindness. It’s about being there for them, providing comfort, and sharing warmth. It also acknowledges that we can’t always solve their problems but can be a source of light and hope in their lives.
When you light a candle in darkness:
- You offer empathy: You understand that everyone faces their own battles, and you empathize with their struggles.
- You provide solace: Your presence and support become a source of comfort in their difficult times.
- You inspire change: Your compassion may encourage them to take their own steps toward self-improvement.
Removing the Sliver from Others’ Eyes
On the other hand, trying to remove the sliver from someone else’s eye implies a critical and judgmental approach. It’s akin to focusing on their flaws and imperfections without considering our own. This approach often leads to conflict and distance rather than understanding.
When you attempt to remove the plank from others’ eyes:
- You may miss your own flaws: Focusing on others’ faults can distract you from personal growth and self-improvement.
- It can create resentment: People generally resist unsolicited criticism and may distance themselves from you.
- It doesn’t foster empathy: This approach may lack the understanding and compassion needed to build meaningful connections.
The choice between lighting a candle in the darkness and removing the sliver from someone else’s eye represents a broader life philosophy. Empathy, self-improvement, and compassion are often best achieved by offering support and understanding to others rather than being overly critical. Let’s strive to be the candle that brings light and warmth to those in need and, in doing so, find our own path to self-improvement and compassion.
Besides, taking a sliver from someone else’s eye while the plank remains in your own can be – a HUGE problem.
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